In July, I heard that B broke up with his girlfriend, whom he was supposed to marry next year. Their relationship had been suspicious in the final years but the fact that they hung on to the last minute diminished all doubts, until the bomb dropped.
In August, a girl friend that hardly calls rang out of the blue.
A: Hey, did you hear about K?
C: What about her?
A: She’s getting divorced
C: Oh, really? No, I didn’t know. Where did you hear this?
A: She told me.
C: Oh, then it must be true.
Last Saturday, a guy friend rang. We were meeting up later that evening because there was a friend in need. The whole crew was going to be there and I had to be there, too. D had a fall out with her boy friend. They were together for 11 years. “Huh? But we just hang out with them a few weeks ago??”
It seems like it’s a season to fall out of love. Like there is a season to get married, a rainy season, a mango season, a pencil skirt season?? Jakarta is slowly resembling other big cities all over the world, where keeping a relationship is apparently harder than finding the person to have it with. Why is it so hard?
Things like infidelity, principal differences, family complications came into mind. But surely you would know about these things before one decides on moving towards tying the knot?
K: Yeah, but I was blinded by love.
Actually, the signs are always there. Often we choose to ignore them because we want to believe in it so much; because we don’t want to be the ones who end up alone; because we don’t have the heart to be honest to ourselves. When it comes to love and relationship, nothing is ever easy and nothing is ever what they seem. At the end of the day, everything is about choice. To choose means taking a risk, committing to it, working on it, and not easily giving up.
Love IS blind…
But it is also patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres… And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. (NIV I Cor 13:4-7;13)
15 years ago
5 comments:
You've been talking a lot about love these past few days. Who's the lucky guy, C? Post a big picture of him next time. We all wanna know!
It's true that the signs are always there. However, the biggest challenge is to sort through the signs vs. the barriers. Barriers are meant to be overcomed, and if you could, then most likely there is a handsome reward on the other side. The problem is that the world is getting so complicated that it is almost impossible to distinguish these aspects of a relationship. Sometimes, the feeling and the reality (or circumstance) is totally opposite of each other, and although the mind is saying one thing, the heart says another. It always comes down to the battle between the mind and the heart. What would you choose? Balance would be a good choice.
more on love:
1 john 3:16
1 john 4
-cn
love your rant and raves C. I have only read a couple but your little head of yours is amazing. amazing i tell you! --Arlene
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