A mate of mine told me about the Tony Abbott affair yesterday. A Health Minister for the Australian government who found a son he gave up for adoption 27 years ago, only to lost it again some short time after, because his then girlfriend apparently had a one-night stand with another man during the possible time of conception.
It brought up some adoption related issues to the surface. When you gave your baby for adoption, do you have the right to meddle into the child's life in the future? Even if only in the form of establishing contact? What rights do birth parents have after they give up the child?
Tony Abbott and his then girlfriend thought that they gave up a child. For 27 years, he wondered about his long lost son. He believed that he should not try to find him, unless the son wanted to find his birth parents. I think he's on the money...
Being a biological parent doesn't entitle you to claim ownership at a child's life. Especially once you've made the decision to give your baby up for adoption. I think what being a biological parent gives you, is a chance to take part in the wonderfully challenging and complicated world of parenthood. And like everything in life, you don't always have a second chance.
You take it and pray that you don't screw up.
15 years ago
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