What a girl needs...

Let's talk about sex. For once, let's just be open and blunt and talk about it. Let's admit that people needs it for various different reasons, both physical and emotional. Let's stop pretending that it's not a topic to be talked about in the open. Let's take off our judging hat and our sensible minds and talk about sex.

SEX.

Much like the series Sex And The City, girls talk about sex a lot of times. The lack of it, the excitement and the emotions that come with it. A girlfriend with relationship problems admitted in a very low voice that her guy had not touched her for more than 10 months. She could not look at us in the eyes when she said the words. As a woman, it made her feel inadequate. She tried to find an answer, but couldn't come up with one. Another friend plainly said, "Oh that doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you. He's just getting it somewhere else." Her eyes widened in disbelief. Her guy, her knight in shining armour. He's a man after all.

Why is sex so important to some people? Let's see... Extreme physical pleasure? Provided one has an orgasm, it is definitely a good feeling. But as human beings, we are deeply emotional whether we like it or not. The physical is closely linked to the emotional. The art of looking at someone; a total stranger who catches the eye raises desire. A feeling of wanting. In receiving the look, one feels desired. A feeling of wanted. An ego boost.

I think at the most basic level, sex is physical gratification. Please don't mistake sex with intimacy. It is no way near it. I'm simply talking about the sex as an act; out of context. Although having said that, I reliase that it is impossible to disregard various factors involved like emotions, economics, religion, and other socio-cultural aspects.

Going back to my friend. Her problems were not just sex. Like serious marital problems, they were rooted in darker corners and them not having it, was just a result from all of the above. Many months later, one divorce and one drink too many she finally got laid. She had a gorgeous boy who gave her pleasure, and not only that... she actually really likes him.

At the risk of over simplifying things, sex makes you feel good. Generally. When done with the right person, for the right reason, at the right time. Sex shouldn't be the only thing responsible for your happiness, nor should it become the measure of a good relationship. Sex should only be one of the many things that are important in a relationship. It is as important as the look you get when you put on that sexy underwear, or the hand that reaches out for you across the table at dinner time, or the toe that tries to find you under the blanket, or the laughter you hear on the other line when you tell a joke. I could go on and on and on...

And I should stop here, because it's no longer about sex. It has become sex and all the other things that a girl needs...